Rumi said that and he was absolutely right! To change anything in your life there has to be one key ingredient - action. If you want to break it down, the process goes like this: Desire, intention, thoughts, feelings, actions and finally, results. I'm sure most of you have heard of "The Secret" and the Law of Attraction and unfortunately, even if you watch The Secret twenty two times the Law of Attraction will not work for most of you. At least not as described in The Secret, anyway. That's because they forget to tell you about the one main ingredient - action. One can visualize all they want, but if you don't take any action, nothing will happen. Your ship of dreams will not find you while day dreaming on your couch! "So what do I do first?" you ask. Anything. As long as you are in motion the Universe can help you. Even if you go off in the wrong direction the Universe will find a way to gently nudge you into changing your heading until your on the right path. It will put you into the path of people that will guide you. People that will fan your flames! So what are you waiting for? Bust a move and start burning down some doors.
Choice. Free will. These things are your divine right as a human being and unless you are living in an oppressed society, it is your biggest card to play. Most of us try to blame others for our misfortunes, but if you look at it honestly, we are all 100% responsible for what goes on in our lives. Don't like the situation you're currently in? The people in your life? Your job? Then change it! Don't try to blame anyone else for your situation because if you examine the root cause of all your problems...it's you. Now, that doesn't mean we should just kick people out of our lives for good or quit our jobs tomorrow, but if you feel you need to make a change then do it responsibly. Take the time to research and calculate what your next move will be. A calculated risk is still a risk, but one with a much higher chance of success.
"If I try that, how will I know I'm on the right track?" We've all asked ourselves that before we try something new, and rightly so, because we felt a little apprehension in taking that next step. However, there's a few things we need to understand. Firstly, without motion or action we shrivel up and die. Secondly, you're not supposed to know if you're making the right decision before you make it. Thirdly, if you wait until all your ducks are in row to make that move, you'll never do it because they'll never be all in a row. Life is designed this way in order to provide life lessons, surprises and victories in order for you to evolve and grow into the person you need to be in order to do the things you came here to do. Now, to get back to the original question, you'll know you're on the right track when it "feels" right to you, not to others, but to YOU. And if you discover, while going down this track, you are no longer wanting to even look back from whence you came. Well then, you are definitely on the right track!
Value. Really, that's all we need to bring to the table. Whether we are negotiating huge deals in a boardroom or trying to get our 5 year olds to eat their vegies. If you bring more value (use value) than the perceived price the person on the other end is paying (cash value), then the deal will be a no-brainer. If value is not part of the equation then the deal goes no where. So many people try to drive such hard bargains in life, presumably to stroke their own ego or perhaps to try to show others how good they are at "taking" from people. That's living life on the extreme competitive plane. Which is fine on the sports field, but in real life it has no place. On the other hand, if we live our lives on the creative plane, creating arrangements that are good for both sides of the negotiations, giving AND taking, then value is perceived by both parties and they can both leave the table feeling successful. If you want success with all your dealings then bring value, bring value, bring value. I wonder how much better some of those we have elected into political office would fare if they followed this advice?
"Why me?" or "Why now?" We've all said those things to ourselves at some point in our lives, not understanding why a certain occurrence has taken place. Often times it leads to a very low period, possibly even a depressive state. As we regain our strength and composure to conquer whatever has befallen us, we soon realize there was a reason we "fell down," we just didn't realize it at the time. Many people talk about how something happened to them to slow down in life, whether it was an injury, disease, or perhaps a death in the family, they all say the occurrence was life changing and realized such a positive outcome from such a seemingly negative experience. I've personally talked to cancer survivors that say the disease was the best thing that ever happened to them. They now know that to truly live life, one must live as if tomorrow is not guaranteed, because it's not. In a way, they have died to become alive. So the next time something seemingly terrible happens to you, wait before you pass judgment on it and treat it as a gift, because truly everything that happens to us, is a gift.
Jim Rohn said that and he was absolutely right! Of course, this statement goes against the established and time tested ways of just working your butt off and everything will fall into place. And I'm glad it does, because I'm here to tell you that the old ways of pursuing success at all costs, just doesn't work. It may bring you some success in a very narrowly focused area, but the rest of your life will be a mess! A successful life is one that encompasses all areas of your life, not just your business, not just your car or clothes, or possessions, or even your relationships. Sure, that's what society and the media want us to believe and portrays for us, but those who go down that path usually end up very sad, confused and alone. Real success, is a true balance of all the areas of your life. It's like the old three legged stool example, take one leg away and it wont be long until you fall. Live your life to the fullest in all your areas, never overworking, always knowing tomorrow is another day. Fill your heart with gratitude for who you are, what you have in your life, and you will attract even more. Treat people with the kindness and respect they deserve and you will never lack for either friends nor clients. Become the person you know you can be, and success will not be far behind.
Ah, the past. We all have one, and sometimes we look back on it with fondness and sometimes we'd rather not remember it at all. Nothing ever happens in the past, it all happens right now in this present moment. All the past is, is just a collection of present moments that have been stored in your brain's memory. Our brains have this memory so that we can learn tasks and repeat them when needed and learn from our past mistakes. Many of us, however, keep bringing up old past moments that made us feel bad and relive them over and over, as if they just actually occurred once again in the present moment. How does this make us feel? We feel exactly the way we felt when it happened. How is this possible? Because your memory is a thought, and thoughts make us feel a certain way, which makes us act a certain way, which gives us the results we get in our lives. So if you're stuck in the past, guess what you're going to keep getting now? The remedy? Get your head out of your past! Simple really.
So many of us are stuck in life. We want to try to accomplish more for ourselves, our family and friends, for the betterment of the world, but we just don't know "how." Sorry to break it to you, but you're not supposed to know how. How could you know how to do something you haven't done yet? So what's the secret for all those successful people that are crushing it in their lives? They all have a "why." Once you discover your why, the reason you get out of bed in the morning, the vision that you can focus on when times are tough, the incredible reason you are driven to create your future vision, the hows will show up. The hows will not show up from the couch, you have to get in the game, taking action to realize your dreams. With action comes the hows. Don't bother to plan out the hows, just plan your next move, the hows will take care of themselves. I think you know "why" you read this today.
The #1 thing all successful people have in common is vision. They quickly move, in their minds, to what things will be like once they reach their goal. They see themselves in that corner office, living a rich life with their family in a nice home, driving the car they always wanted, living a life of philanthropy and ensuring they give people more in use value than they take in cash value. And you can do it too. All you have to do is live your life from the end result. Close your eyes and see where you want to be in 1,3,5,or 10 years from now. Feel how you would feel once you get there, smell the smells all around you and give thanks for getting there. Don't worry "how" you're going to get there, that's what you'll figure out once you put things into motion. The "hows" will take care of themselves. If you develop a "why" you want to do what you want to do, and then follow it up with visualizing the end result every day for just a few minutes, there won't be any stopping you! What are you visualizing?
Most of you have probably heard this quote before and I'm sure you already agree with it. But agreeing with something doesn't cause any action, and it's action you need to cause change. Once you realize the affect your words have on others, and yourself, you start to choose them more carefully. Telling yourself that you "suck" at everything new you try, makes you feel like a complete failure. But your supposed to suck at something new! Common sense, yes? Common practice, no. Remember this saying: "The thoughts we think cause the way we feel; the way we feel causes the way we act; and the way we act gives us the results we get in our lives." The key word here is "feel." How you feel will give you what you get out of life! It's that simple. That's why so many positive people seem so happy, to the chagrin of the negative folks I might add. But it all starts with our thoughts. I'll give you a moment to think about that.