The Beatles said that and they were absolutely right! If you don't seem to have something in your life, then in order to get it, you must first give it. It may sound counter-intuitive, but that's the way the Universe works. When you say gimme, gimme, gimme, the Universe responds with more gimme! Therefore, you still feel needy. If, on the other hand, you acknowledge that giving starts the receiving process and start giving instead of taking, the Universe responds by giving as well. It's really quite a simple process, but our society teaches us to just get out there and take what's rightfully our's. However, nothing is rightfully our's because everything belongs to all of us, and it's not there for the taking, it's there for the giving. Give something to someone today, and watch it make it's way back to you.
Rumi said that and he was absolutely right! To change anything in your life there has to be one key ingredient - action. If you want to break it down, the process goes like this: Desire, intention, thoughts, feelings, actions and finally, results. I'm sure most of you have heard of "The Secret" and the Law of Attraction and unfortunately, even if you watch The Secret twenty two times the Law of Attraction will not work for most of you. At least not as described in The Secret, anyway. That's because they forget to tell you about the one main ingredient - action. One can visualize all they want, but if you don't take any action, nothing will happen. Your ship of dreams will not find you while day dreaming on your couch! "So what do I do first?" you ask. Anything. As long as you are in motion the Universe can help you. Even if you go off in the wrong direction the Universe will find a way to gently nudge you into changing your heading until your on the right path. It will put you into the path of people that will guide you. People that will fan your flames! So what are you waiting for? Bust a move and start burning down some doors.
Choice. Free will. These things are your divine right as a human being and unless you are living in an oppressed society, it is your biggest card to play. Most of us try to blame others for our misfortunes, but if you look at it honestly, we are all 100% responsible for what goes on in our lives. Don't like the situation you're currently in? The people in your life? Your job? Then change it! Don't try to blame anyone else for your situation because if you examine the root cause of all your problems...it's you. Now, that doesn't mean we should just kick people out of our lives for good or quit our jobs tomorrow, but if you feel you need to make a change then do it responsibly. Take the time to research and calculate what your next move will be. A calculated risk is still a risk, but one with a much higher chance of success.
"If I try that, how will I know I'm on the right track?" We've all asked ourselves that before we try something new, and rightly so, because we felt a little apprehension in taking that next step. However, there's a few things we need to understand. Firstly, without motion or action we shrivel up and die. Secondly, you're not supposed to know if you're making the right decision before you make it. Thirdly, if you wait until all your ducks are in row to make that move, you'll never do it because they'll never be all in a row. Life is designed this way in order to provide life lessons, surprises and victories in order for you to evolve and grow into the person you need to be in order to do the things you came here to do. Now, to get back to the original question, you'll know you're on the right track when it "feels" right to you, not to others, but to YOU. And if you discover, while going down this track, you are no longer wanting to even look back from whence you came. Well then, you are definitely on the right track!
Value. Really, that's all we need to bring to the table. Whether we are negotiating huge deals in a boardroom or trying to get our 5 year olds to eat their vegies. If you bring more value (use value) than the perceived price the person on the other end is paying (cash value), then the deal will be a no-brainer. If value is not part of the equation then the deal goes no where. So many people try to drive such hard bargains in life, presumably to stroke their own ego or perhaps to try to show others how good they are at "taking" from people. That's living life on the extreme competitive plane. Which is fine on the sports field, but in real life it has no place. On the other hand, if we live our lives on the creative plane, creating arrangements that are good for both sides of the negotiations, giving AND taking, then value is perceived by both parties and they can both leave the table feeling successful. If you want success with all your dealings then bring value, bring value, bring value. I wonder how much better some of those we have elected into political office would fare if they followed this advice?
"Why me?" or "Why now?" We've all said those things to ourselves at some point in our lives, not understanding why a certain occurrence has taken place. Often times it leads to a very low period, possibly even a depressive state. As we regain our strength and composure to conquer whatever has befallen us, we soon realize there was a reason we "fell down," we just didn't realize it at the time. Many people talk about how something happened to them to slow down in life, whether it was an injury, disease, or perhaps a death in the family, they all say the occurrence was life changing and realized such a positive outcome from such a seemingly negative experience. I've personally talked to cancer survivors that say the disease was the best thing that ever happened to them. They now know that to truly live life, one must live as if tomorrow is not guaranteed, because it's not. In a way, they have died to become alive. So the next time something seemingly terrible happens to you, wait before you pass judgment on it and treat it as a gift, because truly everything that happens to us, is a gift.